The tragedy of love.
Mar 14, 2014 11:40:22 GMT 10
Post by James on Mar 14, 2014 11:40:22 GMT 10
The tragedy of love.
I’ve just read a book about a middle-class English woman who’s eldest son in this teens started with Skunk turning from being the good dutiful son to one who used and stole and abused his parents until they finally had to reject him and let him go and find his own way at eighteen. And all the way through his mother was proclaiming her love for her son, and all the way through wondering why: what had made him become this ‘other’ person. And eventually having to face the truth that perhaps she and his father as parents weren’t as right and good as they believed they were.
It’s so sad having worked on myself through my healing to understand some of the hidden depths of my relationship with my parents, coming to understand they were not right or true, they were full of imperfection, as was their parents and their parents and their parents and their parents and right back it goes, long lines of imperfection being passed on all being called ‘I love my son’.
It’s so tragic that we have no idea just how much influence we have on our forming child, a soul and person that is absorbing all we are and on all levels. Then we insist it fits a certain mould we as the adult tries to force it into, with that force ruining it every day a little more by causing it to turn against itself and making it too become imperfect and able to pass on the family negative lines of yuk. And all under the guise of love.
And yet we love our children with such intensity, this great love that is meant by itself to just make everything all right. And yet in each moment right from conception all it is doing is corrupting the very person we feel we love so much. And after all these years, all these generations, we still don’t have a clue. We still refuse to listen to our own feelings, denying their help as they would lead us and show us the way to the truth of this ‘love’.
So how is your relationship with your parents? It’s a sad inditement on humanity that everyone who will come to Divine Love Spirituality will share one thing in common - feeling unloved by ones parents. And that we can’t just get on with our spiritual growth advancing in truth and relishing our loving parents more so every day as we feel their true love for us. No, unfortunately, that is not for us. We have to do it the hard way.
I’ve just read a book about a middle-class English woman who’s eldest son in this teens started with Skunk turning from being the good dutiful son to one who used and stole and abused his parents until they finally had to reject him and let him go and find his own way at eighteen. And all the way through his mother was proclaiming her love for her son, and all the way through wondering why: what had made him become this ‘other’ person. And eventually having to face the truth that perhaps she and his father as parents weren’t as right and good as they believed they were.
It’s so sad having worked on myself through my healing to understand some of the hidden depths of my relationship with my parents, coming to understand they were not right or true, they were full of imperfection, as was their parents and their parents and their parents and their parents and right back it goes, long lines of imperfection being passed on all being called ‘I love my son’.
It’s so tragic that we have no idea just how much influence we have on our forming child, a soul and person that is absorbing all we are and on all levels. Then we insist it fits a certain mould we as the adult tries to force it into, with that force ruining it every day a little more by causing it to turn against itself and making it too become imperfect and able to pass on the family negative lines of yuk. And all under the guise of love.
And yet we love our children with such intensity, this great love that is meant by itself to just make everything all right. And yet in each moment right from conception all it is doing is corrupting the very person we feel we love so much. And after all these years, all these generations, we still don’t have a clue. We still refuse to listen to our own feelings, denying their help as they would lead us and show us the way to the truth of this ‘love’.
So how is your relationship with your parents? It’s a sad inditement on humanity that everyone who will come to Divine Love Spirituality will share one thing in common - feeling unloved by ones parents. And that we can’t just get on with our spiritual growth advancing in truth and relishing our loving parents more so every day as we feel their true love for us. No, unfortunately, that is not for us. We have to do it the hard way.