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Post by James on Jan 13, 2015 12:26:13 GMT 10
DLS: added to home page
You can’t spiritually grow without doing your healing.
All that is said to help you spiritually grow but is feeling-denying, will not help you, it will only at best cause you to advance your mind embroiling you more in your self-deception and self-delusion that you are making good headway.
If you are not looking to your feelings to show you the way into the truth of yourself, then you are not truly spiritually growing, you are not evolving your soul despite what you might feel and think you are doing.
Understand about living true to your feelings if you are seriously wanting to advance your soul in truth. Deny your feelings at your own risk!
Understand about is involved in doing your Feeling-Healing and Soul-Healing with the Divine Love.
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Post by James on Jan 13, 2015 12:28:01 GMT 10
CR: added to Feeling Bad? page
Do you want to live true?
And do you want to live true in your relationship with yourself; and in your relationship with other people; and even in your relationship with God?
Going into what you’re really feeling about Everything. Do you want to live true, which means, being true in every feeling you feel, so wanting to go into all those bits that don’t make you feel good. If you’re still content to deny any part, to not look into the truth of all the difficulties, then you’re not wanting to live true, you’re still trying to avoid and not face the truth, you’re still wanting to have secrets and lie.
It’s not a game, it’s for real and is for keeps. It’s about the salvation of your soul, you saving yourself through being true to ALL your feelings.
And to live confronting every feeling, all the bad parts every time you feel one of them, means everything is going to change, and that too can be very hard to face. But it’s what you must decide you want to do, and be intent on doing should your feelings lead you that way.
Being true means forfeiting everything that’s not true. So putting yourself under the microscope being prepared to scrutinise every slightest bad feeling you feel. To fully accept it, bring it up, speak about it, express all it’s making you feel, and longing hard - with all your heart - to know the truth of why you are feeling it.
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Post by James on Jan 13, 2015 12:29:22 GMT 10
CR: New page - STOP CRYING!
STOP CRYING!
You mustn’t cry. It’s not good or right to cry.
But why isn’t it good or right when it’s what you feel you want to do? It’s the best thing you can do if you’re feeling you want to do it.
Why deny any feelings? Denying yourself the right to feel as you do, should surely make you cry even harder. You are hurting yourself by stopping yourself express your bad feelings. It’s all too controlling, ditch the control and cry your eyeballs out. If you didn’t have good reason to cry, you wouldn’t be crying? Cry to uncover those good reasons.
And we’re told to stop crying, either because: it’s better for you to stop, being told in a so-called loving, concerned and caring way; or being told to stop angrily because you’re only making things more difficult for yourself and for everyone else.
There’s no need to cry - what are you crying for, STOP IT! Don’t cry, you’re upsetting yourself, only making things worse for yourself. I don’t like to see you crying. Stop crying, you’re making me angry! Stop crying or you’ll drown in the misery of your own tears. And that’s not good for you, you’ll make yourself sick. It’s not acceptable - we don’t want you as you are; we don’t want the crying you, as we don’t want to feel bad and like crying ourselves.
Which is nothing like: keep crying, it’s the best thing you can do. Vent, express, emote all those terrible feelings, let them come out, it’s healing. Cry with all your heart, cry with all your pain, you are crying for very good reasons - YOU HAVE ALL RIGHT TO CRY. Even: you MUST cry, don’t hold it all in, bring it out, allow yourself to abandon yourself to your pain and misery, to all those bad feelings that are making you cry. And long for the truth of them. Cry as much as you want, for as long as you want, whilst longing to uncover the truth of why you are crying. What REALLY is making you cry?
Don’t feel bad - is what you’re trying to do by stopping crying. STOP FEELING BAD - STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT. We’re not allowed to feel bad. Feeling bad is the ultimate sin. No one is allowed to feel bad; and worse, no one is EVER allowed to indulge in all their bad feelings for as long as they want to - for as long as they feel bad.
And it’s all so absurd. We have feelings for reasons, so why stop trying to find those reasons by stopping yourself freeing bad. Don’t you want to know the truth of yourself, who you are and why you are feeling all you are feeling?
And how else will you ever know yourself if you won’t even allow yourself to cry.
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Post by James on Jan 15, 2015 22:37:40 GMT 10
DLS: new page - Our relationship with God
Our relationship with God
Is determined by our relationship with our parents.
Any dysfunction and problem in our relationship with our parents affects our relationship with God.
If we grew up not having a perfect relationship with our parents, then we can’t have a perfect relationship with our Heavenly Parents. And neither can we have a perfect relationship with ourselves.
We are only self-hating and not self-loving because our parents didn’t love us as we needed to be loved. And so because of this we are also God-hating and not God-loving.
We might believe we love God and feel loved by God, but if there is any imperfection within us, being shown as imperfection in the relationship with have with ourselves and our parents, then that love we have for God will come into question when we do our healing, when it is time to look into the truth of why we have such untrue relationships.
We project onto God all we’ve taken on from our parents. God is our real Parents. We are to heal ourselves of our parents unlovingness, moving into feeling completely loved by our Mother and Father.
Whilst we live in our state of rebellion, sin and evil, that which we’re all inducted into until humanity heals itself of such a negative and unloving condition of mind and will, we can’t be truly loved by our parents just as we can’t truly love them, despite any feelings of love we might have for them. And along with those feelings of love will be feelings of not feeling loved, and these are the ones that we need to address. And all those unloving and unloved feelings will be blocking and so limiting our relationship with God, despite any feelings of love for God or love from God we might feel.
Only by doing our healing, feeling-healing or soul-healing with the Divine Love, can we become true to ourselves, so become wholly self-loving, and then true to God. Become truly God-loving, and feel truly loved by God.
Until we uncover the truth of our wrongness we’ll not know the truth of our relationship with ourselves, our parents and with our Mother and Father.
Lately I've been considering just how much we fear the Mother and Father if we fear our parents. Meaning: We only fear God if we fear our parents. If we loved our parents we'd truly love God. The word ‘truly’ being important, because I don’t mean believing and feeling we love God when the hidden truth is we’re using those so-called love feelings to hide our fear of God. The patterns are laid down concerning our relationship with our soul Mother and Father through our relationship with our physical mother and father. So every dysfunction we have in our relationship with our mum and dad, so we'll have with the Mother and Father. Yet not necessarily specifically, however the fact that we are not truly connecting with our parents, means we can't truly connect with our Heavenly Parents. So even if we feel we strongly love our Mother and Father and feel Their love for us, still, if we've got anything that's wrong in our relationship with our own parents, it will be negatively influencing our relationship with God. However by that I don't mean that we have to perfect our relationship with our parents so as to then have a perfect one with our Mother and Father. But we do have to prefect the relationship within ourselves - become perfect ourselves, so as to have a perfect relationship with Them. So we have to heal all our mother/father circuits and patterns within ourselves, thereby perfecting within ourselves our inner relationship with them, so we can then relate truly to ourself and to Them.
Currently I feel once we leave our parents, that's it with them. We are on our own looking to be perfect by living true to ourselves and true to God. As to whether we might ever have anything to do with our parents again, even if they were to do their healing, I don't know. I imagine possibly for some people they will, and I image possibly for others they will not. But as I said, I have no idea, and it waits to be seen. But the beauty is, we don't have to have anything further to do with them if we don't want to, so we can heal all of ourself without needing their involvement, and so irrespective of whether or not they do their healing.
So every bad part of our unloving relationship with our parents that we uncover the truth of, expressing fully all the associated feelings, is doing the same in our relationship with our Mother and Father. So by the time we finish our healing, being completely set free of our parents - of their negative influences, so we'll be free to take our first real steps of being perfectly true with our Mother and Father. Then I imagine we’ll start to get a real understanding about what it feels like to feel truly loved and to be truly loving.
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Post by James on Jan 25, 2015 15:49:56 GMT 10
New page added to CR
Being yourself
It's okay to be yourself; which means, It's okay to hate yourself, if that's how you feel about yourself.
It’s okay to be yourself.
It’s okay to hate yourself if that’s how you feel about yourself.
You’re all right as you are. Nothing is expected of you. You don’t have to keep trying, telling yourself you can do it, telling yourself that you are better than you are.
You’ve suffered a huge trauma - your whole childhood beginning at your conception was one long trauma. And you still have no idea of the extent of your suffering.
And it’s right that you don’t know; it’s right that you’ve not been able to be sympathetic and caring of yourself, because no one cared about you.
And it’s right that you can’t do anything. It’s right that you are a failure - and it’s completely okay. You are not to be anything other than what you are, and being a failure is fine; it’s good, good to fully embrace and accept yourself being it. Much better than running away refusing to face the truth - the truth of what you’ve always felt and known about yourself.
So it’s okay to let yourself off the hook, you don’t have to be perfect, no one is going to judge you. God is not going to be angry with you, nothing bad is going to happen to you for being the useless, hopeless, nothing person you feel you are: BECAUSE IT WASN’T YOUR FAULT. None of it was. You did what you could, you had no choice, you couldn’t be another way.
And it’s right that you’re not like all those other people who seem to do life so effortlessly, getting what they want without difficulty, even being happy in themselves and in their relationships. It’s right that you’re unhappy, miserably and feel shameful about yourself, just as it’s right you have no real friends, no one who loves you, no one who wants to know you.
And it’s completely right and understandable that you want someone to come and look after you, to finally take care of you, someone in whom you can put your trust and entirely count on to always be there for you. It’s right that you want that but also know you can’t have it, not as you are anyway, but possibly might be able to should you heal all your pain and trauma.
You are right to hate yourself, to feel you are a despicable shit wretch good-for-nothing person. It’s absolutely right you feel all the bad feelings about yourself that you do. And that they should be there in you, destroying you; and it’s right that you finally give up the struggle against them, that you allow yourself to give into the fight and submit to them.
And it’s right in doing so that all you have left is wanting to understand what they are all about, why you have them: What is the truth of your trauma? And it’s right, and what will eventually heal you, to seek the truth of such bad feelings about yourself whilst you bring them all up and out of yourself - whilst you feel, embrace, acknowledge and express them; whilst you fully accept yourself as being them.
You are right as you are, all the bad. You are wrong trying stop yourself being all as you are, by pretending you are all right, when you are all wrong.
It’s right, good and okay, to be all-wrong. You are traumatised, and still in great fear, anguish and nervous all the time. And it’s right that no one else understands all you’ve suffered, because how can they - they are not you, they have not been through it all.
And it’s right that it’s all because you weren’t loved as you needed to be as a child. It’s right that not feeling love has traumatised you. Not feeling loved is traumatic. As you know.
There is nothing wrong with hating yourself.
You ARE to hate yourself if you feel you hate yourself. You are NOT to stop hating yourself by using your mind if you feel you do hate yourself. If it’s how you feel, there is NOTHING wrong with it.
We are not meant to go around telling ourselves by using our mind that ‘We love ourself’, or even for that matter, that we hate ourself. We are just meant to be as we feel, and longing for the truth of those feelings.
If you have to tell yourself you love yourself, and do things to show you love yourself, then there is something wrong with you - that something being you actually hate yourself. If you truly loved yourself it would be your state of feelings, you’d not need to say anything or do anything, you’d just be self-loving.
And if you feel you hate yourself, then to remain true to such feelings will only help you with your healing and uncovering the truth of such feelings as you will not be tempted or led away into false love feelings made up and brought about by your mind.
All the bullshit self-love ways we’re taught which people believe and try and live as being right, are wrong. It’s all only keeping you bound up in, and a prisoner of, your mind. It’s all too heavily mind controlled. So when we are healed and true, we’ll simply be our true feelings without any mind in it. It won’t be about believing you are right or wrong, it will simply be being (no beliefs, no mind stuff) that you are as you are. Knowing the truth of how you feel.
So to believe you are wrong is right, because we are going against ourselves. So it’s the other way round to what we think. All the self-help mind stuff directed at telling and then convincing yourself that you are good, right and self-loving, is actually self-hating, as it’s denying ones true underlying feelings.
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Post by James on Jun 21, 2015 22:05:26 GMT 10
Hello Sam and Wes, I'm still having computer problems and can't replace it for about three weeks. I'm back writing having moved through my not-wanting-to-write phase, but I'm going to post again until I get it resolved a time to change the routine and reassess. If I can I'll still be keeping an eye on the forum each day.
Marion and I are well, all things being considered - still working daily through our yuk, and generally feeling increasingly better about ourselves and being with each other - all incremental steps.
The Mother and Father say all is going well and according to plan - what else would They say! And Mary and Jesus are happy with all that's been happening and will continue to give those of us doing our healing their continued love and support.
So unless I feel otherwise, I won't post again for a few weeks. Speak to you then - James.
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Post by James on Jul 14, 2015 22:25:01 GMT 10
Hello Sam and Wes. Finally! I found a second hand iMac that’s as good as a new one so far as all the specs are concerned. It was a good deal and enjoyable meeting the unassuming Indian?, and so far so good, and the best part was it involved minimal time in the city which I increasingly loath. Then the fun started - trying to get online. And incredibly it happened with my having to go back to Melbourne only once again, so managing to get it all going with just two city trips was pretty good.
I’ve enjoyed my time ‘off’. I did lots of writing, spoke with Mary, Jesus; Elyon and Machiventa who I’d not spoken with for years. They are all happy with what’s going on, and I feel ready to start putting more stuff out there through my new blog.
I’m still changing a lot, continuing to see things more clearly, understanding my problems better; still more anger is coming up about how disconnected I am in my relationships with myself, Marion and my lack of self-expression - same old things.
And although I feel increasingly truer to my yukness, and more aware of how it was for me with mum and dad, overall I’m still feeling stronger daily within myself. My tantrums are not as juvenile, my shocks not as traumatic, my misery and fears are almost gone; boredom, dissatisfaction and feeling so unfulfilled and angry about how much I’ve missed in life are still very strong providing me with plenty of bad feelings to express.
Not being ‘attached’ to the world, not reading the news, not knowing nor caring about ‘what’s happening’ for these few weeks has helped turn me more back to myself, lessening my need to be entertained by what’s happening out there. Better to entertain myself instead of always having to watch my mothers show.
I read your posts Sam about your dream, I have written a comment about it which I’ll post in a day or two when I sort all my writing out on my new machine.
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Post by wesley on Jul 15, 2015 10:45:30 GMT 10
Welcome back I am also still grinding away at it also
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Post by samantha9 on Jul 16, 2015 18:02:54 GMT 10
I am also still grinding away and my dreams are the realest they have ever been, every time I close my eyes I am back into a situation that I am still resistant to feeling, Mother and Father know how to make me aware of my denial and there is no not facing it all. They are truly bringing it.
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